This is true. I saw a documentary about it. Men’s orgasm faces are allowed in teenage comedies rated PG13, but women’s orgasm faces can often push it into NC-17 territory, no joke. [x]
This is pretty much the equation:
women receiving abuse = PG-13/R
women receiving pleasure = R/NC-17
there is a whole documentary about women vs men and sex vs violence and film ratings. i recommend it
The Documentary is called “This Film Is Not Yet Rated”
I like her face.
Asked by Anonymous
Most kids on this website don’t even know what this is
That’s a coffee table
This RIGHT HERE.
i really wanted to make this a long thought out post but imma just blurt this thang on out right fast…
yall gotta stop begging for groups you love to get back together. stop thinking you have so much ownership over a collective of individuals urge to create art together. like im all for a good…
Probably needs to be said many more times before people listen.
Who doesn’t have to wrestle with trying to make the operations of racism clear? All of our societies–whether you’re in the Dominican Republic or the United States–it’s sort of like hanging around with holocaust deniers all day when it comes to the question of race. You bring up race and, suddenly, it’s like you’re at the convention of holocaust deniers. Because everyone is like–any chance they get to disqualify race as operational, they will. People will literally be like “Oh slavery? That was class, not race.” You know? And whether it’s the Dominican Republic or New Jersey, you find a lot of the same codes.
My thing is, and certainly college helped me a lot in this way, what I have discovered is what we call race and racism, the technical term for this is white supremacy. But you know that there’s a reason why in academia they have no problem using it, but it doesn’t appear in newspapers. They use this other, inaccurate code–racism or race–when it’s really white supremacy. Well, we’ve discovered you don’t have to be in ethnic studies to know, is that white supremacy doesn’t reinvent itself. Which is to say that the Dominican Republic suffers from the same exact white supremacy the United States suffers from. Just because it’s people of color doesn’t mean that they don’t have the same ideas and thinkings that we would think of as the most malign form of white supremacy. Said another way is that y’all don’t need white people for this to be a profoundly racist society. If you took every white person and sent them to Middle Earth for a year, they could come back and the shit would be exactly the same, except the lightest members of us would be like “Ah!”
Because this stuff can’t exist–it cannot exist if it’s not inside of all of us. So whether I’m sitting in front of my family, sitting around my Dominican family, and they want to be a bunch of lunatics around race, or I’m at my Rutgers sophomore class–I still remember this, twenty-something years–and I’m in my Rutgers sophomore class and I’m looking at students telling me that there’s no such thing as racism. I think [about] the malign effects of white supremacy. I think the toxic structure created to preserve the privileges of the constituents who most benefit from white supremacy, we still have to confront in all of our societies and in all of our families the way the white supremacy lives inside of all of us.
Guys look, we don’t even–we’re not talking about white folks. White supremacy is a system. That connects to everyone. When I sit with my students, and I bring in a video, and show them all ballplayers’ wives… Y’all wanna see some crazy race shit? Just look at every person of african descent playing sports and line up their wives. And be like “is there a system here?”
And so I just think that systems have to be confronted, and we’re still far from this, but to pretend that one group or another is somehow excused is absurd. And I think what you’re pointing to is the work we have to do inside of our own communities even while we’re being afflicted from other communities from outside. And I always think, I couldn’t decide which was worse, the racism inside my family, or the racism inside New Jersey. I felt like they just shook hands, every morning.
Look Hitler would be very pleased with people of color’s dating habits. For real. I teach at MIT, and I have students who literally will take a photograph of every single asian woman with a white boyfriend. Now, all of us fall in love for individual reasons, but to pretend that there are not patterns is absurd. And to pretend that we don’t have a sexual economy, that is inflected by race, is absurd. That is absurd to the point where it makes me think we all smoking crack.
Worth watching the whole interview. Time to start hunting down all of his short stories.
Rapidly becoming one of my favorite writers.
It’s an alluring message. Ever since the Ackleys discovered Ramsey four or five years ago, they have been slowly, methodically, and painfully paying down their bills while refusing to take on new debts. “Like Dave says, the borrower is the slave of the lender,” Kenneth told me as we chatted during a break in Ramsey’s four-hour program. Of course, it’s generally good to get out of debt. But when it comes to financial salvation, Ramsey’s gospel is one of extreme self-reliance, bordering on self-mortification. He preaches the need for what he calls “gazelle intensity” in getting control of one’s money. The phrase is a reference to Proverbs 6:4-5: “Give no sleep to your eyes, nor slumber to your eyelids. Deliver yourself like a gazelle from the hand of the hunter.” In Ramsey’s world, there is always fat that can be trimmed from a family’s budget, always another job that can be scraped together to add to a family’s income. And no bailouts: In all but the most extreme cases, Ramsey abjures bankruptcy—the one legal avenue Americans have for debt forgiveness.
What he offers, in return, is hope through sacrifice—and, again, a sense of control. “It’s nice to see there is a way out,” Tannie confided in me before Ramsey’s stage show resumed. But is that really what Ramsey’s harsh gospel offers: a way out? Does his system work? Data is scare either way, but there’s little evidence that his advice works for people who are truly struggling—or that his worldview accurately describes their problems. His counsel even wards them away from a source of relief he himself once depended on: Before making his fortune as a self-help guru, Ramsey completed his own journey out of crushing debt by filing for bankruptcy in 1988. For anyone who’s similarly overwhelmed, Ramsey’s advice may hurt more than it helps. Whatever the case may be, one thing’s for sure: The age of debt has been very good to Dave Ramsey.
I am reminded of Tannie Ackley’s remark about what Ramsey offered: a way out. Ramsey appeals to people in financial trouble by offering what appears to be an easy-to-follow path to fiscal sanity and prosperity. If we can exercise self-control over our wallets, he says, the rest will take care of itself. But for all too many people in the United States of 2013, that’s not really true. Larger forces overwhelm their best efforts. And the sooner we admit that, the faster we can begin to address the real causes of our personal finance woes.
Yet another person that seems to be taking advantage of people while telling them it’s completely their own fault for the situation they’re in. Unsurprisingly, he’s against the ACA, even though medical bills are the leading cause of bankruptcies and a huge portion of people’s debt nowadays. Bankruptcy is only allowed if you were a real estate speculator like him, I guess.
Let me leave you with this: the point of my writing was to ask what screens want. I think that’s a great question, but it is a secondary concern. What screens want needs to match up with what we want.
People believe there’s an essence to the computer, that there’s something true and real and a correct way to do things. But—there is no right way. We get to choose how to aim the technology we build. At least for now, because increasingly, technology feels like something that happens to you instead of something you use. We need to figure out how to stop that, for all of our sakes, before we’re locked in, on rails, and headed toward who knows what.
If you work on building the web, it’s worth reading this whole thing.